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Nurture or Nature?

Janet Walkow

            …a personal story The role of our environment and upbringing versus individual/genetic composition is an ongoing debate. Knowing several sets of twins, each with markedly different personalities, interests and vocations, most people agree that both nature and nurture play a role in our persona’s. Family structure and early influences set us on life paths that typically require us to … Continue reading

Feeling like ‘Other’

Christine Jacobs

One of my favorite passages in Jane Austen’s, Persuasion, comes late in the book as Anne Elliot is debating the strength of men’s and women’s feeling with Captain Harville.  He states: “I do not think I ever opened a book in my life which had not something to say upon woman’s inconstancy.  Songs and proverb all talk of women’s fickleness.  … Continue reading

Offensive Leadership

Janet Walkow

All of us have had to act on the offensive, protecting our interests, principles and people in our lives. In writing about offensive leadership, it shouldn’t be lost on anyone that the word, offensive, can also be used to describe someone or something that is repulsive or degrading. The duality of meaning describes what many of us have had to … Continue reading

Why Didn’t I Think of That?

Christine Jacobs

It has happened to most of the women I know in business.  You are in a meeting and you toss out a fabulous idea.  And you are ignored.  The conversation proceeds for a while; then a male colleague suggests the same or almost the same concept.  The room erupts with “Great idea, Tom!” You stew.  “Did they not hear me?  … Continue reading

Waiting for Joe to Speak…

Christine Jacobs

Many years ago I worked for a small company at the director level.  I had met Joe, the company president, but had not had any extensive conversations with him.  Once, I walked past him while he was waiting to go into a meeting.  He caught my eye and I waited for him to speak first, since he was the big … Continue reading

Dual Career Dilemmas

Janet Walkow

I recently rendezvoused with a 20-something friend, Eileen, who lives in Washington, DC. Our conversation are always energizing as we exchange personal and professional updates and talk about what each of us are striving to achieve. Eileen is finishing up a 2-year gig and will be applying to graduate programs in various geographic hubs. Why? Her significant other, who lives … Continue reading

Know Your Fans

Christine Jacobs

It is often easier to internalize negative things said to you or general negative treatment than accept positive thoughts.  I have had several positions over my long career with peers or rivals whose insults went right to my core.  And, they made me doubt myself.  It was then tough to dig out from the emotional lows that this brought about. … Continue reading

Finding Your Voice

Janet Walkow

As a leadership coach, I have worked with numerous women and men at transition points, as they take on new responsibilities or when they hit a leadership bump along the way. While most coaching occurs in a one on one setting, it can be especially helpful to provide feedback and guidance real time. Leadership Bumps A few years ago I … Continue reading

A Promotion

Christine Jacobs

…from “OLD FEMINIST” to “BAD ASS“ Several years ago I had an unnerving conversation with my then college aged daughter and several of her contemporaries.  They had heard a recent campus speaker define old feminists as those of my age bracket who wanted to talk about the advancement of gender equality in our lifetime.  Sure enough, I had recently heard … Continue reading

Social Loafing

Janet Walkow

…does it lead to personal loafing? The other day I received an email that was addressed to 3 other family members, asking for an opinion on which of 4 places we should stay when on our next vacation. I typically take the lead in planning vacations, but decided a few months ago that I would leave all the major decisions … Continue reading