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Parallel Worlds

Christine Jacobs

I once heard about a drifter who lived in a tent in San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park and tragically died in a fire.  On the evening news, there was a tribute from acquaintances who declared that “He had his own sense of reality”.  That line always brings a smile, as it sounded so prototypical California. But with deeper thought I … Continue reading

Big Girls Do(n’t) Cry?

Janet Walkow

This year’s Olympic coverage has a strange twist and a different feel. Turning on the news after the US “Fab 5” won the gymnastics team gold, the media quickly turned their focus to the other competitors, sitting on the sideline crying. The reporters were celebrating the US victory as well as how they crushed the other girls to the point … Continue reading

Doing Well and Doing Good

Christine Jacobs

            A Grammar & Life Lesson Do you remember the difference between an adjective and an adverb?  The former modifies a noun and the latter modifies a verb. For example, look at the difference between the words well and good in the following phrases:  Do well in life.  Do good in life. Well, Well, Well Doing well can mean accomplishing … Continue reading

Nurture or Nature?

Janet Walkow

            …a personal story The role of our environment and upbringing versus individual/genetic composition is an ongoing debate. Knowing several sets of twins, each with markedly different personalities, interests and vocations, most people agree that both nature and nurture play a role in our persona’s. Family structure and early influences set us on life paths that typically require us to … Continue reading

Feeling like ‘Other’

Christine Jacobs

One of my favorite passages in Jane Austen’s, Persuasion, comes late in the book as Anne Elliot is debating the strength of men’s and women’s feeling with Captain Harville.  He states: “I do not think I ever opened a book in my life which had not something to say upon woman’s inconstancy.  Songs and proverb all talk of women’s fickleness.  … Continue reading

Offensive Leadership

Janet Walkow

All of us have had to act on the offensive, protecting our interests, principles and people in our lives. In writing about offensive leadership, it shouldn’t be lost on anyone that the word, offensive, can also be used to describe someone or something that is repulsive or degrading. The duality of meaning describes what many of us have had to … Continue reading

Why Didn’t I Think of That?

Christine Jacobs

It has happened to most of the women I know in business.  You are in a meeting and you toss out a fabulous idea.  And you are ignored.  The conversation proceeds for a while; then a male colleague suggests the same or almost the same concept.  The room erupts with “Great idea, Tom!” You stew.  “Did they not hear me?  … Continue reading

Know Your Fans

Christine Jacobs

It is often easier to internalize negative things said to you or general negative treatment than accept positive thoughts.  I have had several positions over my long career with peers or rivals whose insults went right to my core.  And, they made me doubt myself.  It was then tough to dig out from the emotional lows that this brought about. … Continue reading

Finding Your Voice

Janet Walkow

As a leadership coach, I have worked with numerous women and men at transition points, as they take on new responsibilities or when they hit a leadership bump along the way. While most coaching occurs in a one on one setting, it can be especially helpful to provide feedback and guidance real time. Leadership Bumps A few years ago I … Continue reading

A Promotion

Christine Jacobs

…from “OLD FEMINIST” to “BAD ASS“ Several years ago I had an unnerving conversation with my then college aged daughter and several of her contemporaries.  They had heard a recent campus speaker define old feminists as those of my age bracket who wanted to talk about the advancement of gender equality in our lifetime.  Sure enough, I had recently heard … Continue reading